Friday, March 7, 2008

How to Get the Girl that You Want

Did I surprised anyone with this topic? Well, I am sure alot of girls out there are like me, i.e. wish that the guy that you fancy will do the right thing already and talk to you. Or when the guy actually talk to you, you are so utterly disappointed and although it might just be first impression but whatever feelings or mood you have for the guy just fly out the door? I simply can't resist doing this. I mean, who would know better on what is the most effective ways to approach a girl than a girl?

Actually, for us girls, it is really simple. The most important thing is FIRST IMPRESSION! The guy don't even have to be very handsome or look like a Italian Greek Model or God. He just need to impress us the first time that we see him. And I can tell you immediately that those corny pick up line does not work! What makes the guy think that saying something like "Have I seen you somewhere" or "I think I just saw an angel" will work? Girls are not stupid or brainless you know.

Remember to speak loud enough so that she can hear you. I am not asking you to shout, mind you! That is a no-no too. Just talk in loud audible volume so that she don't have to strain her ears to hear you. Trust me, she will not ask you to repeat yourself if she can't hear and chances are, she might just tune out or pretend to hear. This is no good too because she might be missing some important information that you might like her to know about you. Also, if you mumble, then we will perceive you as weak. So, speak up.

Once you get her attention, remember to BREATH! LOL~ I know it might it nerve wrecking and the possibility of being rejected is painful but that is LIFE. Slow down and don't talk like chipmuck! LOL!~ I know you suddenly have so many things to tell her but do it slowly. After all, you need to captivate her and not shock her! And guys, don't use your whiny voice. There is nothing worse than listening to someone with pitchy high voice especially from a guy. It might works on Franny from The Nanny but unless you have a body like hers, practice and train yourself to speak from your chest.

On the other hand, don't talk like a robot either! Gasp! You don't want to bore her with emotionless flat voice too. It always helps if you talk about a topic that you are passionate about but for godsake, I am pretty sure the girls am not interested in how you clean your socks yesterday.....

Oh yes, don't forget about your body language. Sit up or stand straight in your most natural posture without hunching or curving your back. Not asking you to be stiff like a statue lar! And try to take up more space. Don't withdraw into yourself. When sitting, sit as comfortably as you can with your legs spread comfortably across. I remember there is this really tall guy that I met once before sitting across from me with his super duper long legs stretch across the small tiny round cafe table towards me. There were no physical contact at all but the vibe at the time could have lit a bondfire. Sadly (or rather fortunately), I found out that he is a player. So, no thanks.

Next is the eyes! Remember how you know a couple just start dating when you see them staring gooey eyes at each other? When you are trying to attract a girl, eye contact is very very important. General rule is 50% when you are spoken to and 90% when you are speaking. This will show sincerity and interest. Girls are not used to being looked in the eyes by someone that is interested in them. So, this will come of as both attractive and show of confident and at the same time surprise the girl. Of course, it will help if you have sea blue eyes with long eye lashes that a girl simply can't stop staring and get lost in....

Last but not least, no matter how nervous you are feeling at the time, DO NOT SHOW THEM! Trust me, the moment the girl sense that you are nervous, then it is sayonara to you! We like our man to be strong, kind, wonderful, great eyes, great butt, great smile, humorous, entertaining, sensitive, cooks, clean and the list goes on! hahaha...

8 comments:

Rose said...

Guess what Jen! Big J said this to me "You look very familiar" and ask for my handphone number! I was not impress that time and try to give stupid reason on having no handphone number!! Hahah!

Guess men have to be creative to tackle women! ;p

Jen's Place said...

Rose,
Good thing Big J is persistent!

Nick Phillips said...

LOL, I'm LMAO at Rose's comment. That has to be the most cheesiest pick up line ever. And yeah, good thing Big J was a persistent fellow wasn't he? LOL!

Jen's Place said...

Nick,
*nods*
hei, what pick up line did you use one your wife???

RaiNboW said...

wahaha.. Jen, i go for look during first impression. Then character and personality. Hehe

Mariuca said...

LOL...you make me miss dating and all its fun silliness!

Jen's Place said...

Rainbow,
*wink* We know that but does the guys?????

Jen's Place said...

Maurica,
hehehe..those time do sound silly doesnt it? hehe...