Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Live in our Live out

Recently had an interesting debate with cousin-in-law about live-in or live-out maid is better. Reason this topic came up was because the Indonesia government are working to implement no live-in Indonesian maid from 2017 onwards. I guess the intention was to ensure the maids have proper working hours and social life. Also, in case of any abuse or unwanted situation happened, the maids have ways to call for help.

I was not debating whether which way it should be but rather have anyone asked the girls themselves what is their preference? Now, please understand I am purely debating from the point as a Malaysian and not about how other countries treat their maid. And the information of how the ME treat their maids, frankly, I hope someone will shoot them.

As Malaysian, although we are not well-off, my parents on several occasion to take on live-in maids. Those days, only readily available are Indonesian maids. Philippine maids are story for the rich back then. And most of this maids, are probably 18 or 19 years old only. It was the first time they have even been out of their village, what more to say to another country. Most times, mom have to teach them how to turn on and off the light switch, use the stove, water pipe and so forth. They are that naive and the idea of them having to fend for themselves outside on the salary that they have, frankly, it is really inviting for trouble. Not to mention the possibility of being cheated...

Anyway, I am sure there are those of us that do prefer live-out maid that only comes certain hour every evening to help out with the housework and daily chores after office work. And I am not denying there are those that abuse their maids but I would think in Malaysia, most of us are basically good people and we treat human as human. We dont expect them to do more than what we are willing to do.

So, at the end, what I been asking over and over again, did we ask what these Indonesian girls what they want? Did anyone ask employers what they want?

Sunday, May 29, 2016

Starting Up Again!

Note: This is a warming up test and please forgive me if the posting is really bad! Can't believe the last time I blogged was 4.5 years ago! My brain is feeling so blur now that I hardly know what to type. But I guess eventually, will get into the zen of things. I know, I can hear laughter from some of you reading this because it sounded silly and I have to admit, it does. But those days, I will just have to on the laptop and I can actually type whatever that is in my mind and the words just flow like music. But typing this 1st post after so many years, I actually re-write the whole thing at least 3-4 times trying to find the right words to use. Hopefully, I am not going to erase this again!

As this is the first post, I guess it make sense to share what has happened in the last few years. My baby girl is no longer a baby. As she like to remind me and her daddy, she is a YOUNG LADY now. Not even a little girl she says. But truth is, she is a real prima donna at 4.5 years old. She started pre-school last year and now she is actually in 1st year of kindergarden and counts to 100! Do addition, subtraction, read, love ballet and singing and dancing and TALKING! Love to pretend she is a teacher and tell the students, SIT DOWN! She sound very convincing too and have us all in stitches. She has her temper though and we are still working this out and helping her to control them.

And, she love her baby brother very much! Yep! we decided to have #2 when our young lady turns 3. And sometimes, I would even say this young lady loves her brother even more than anyone else. She used to say she cant wait for her brother to grow up so that they can play together. Well, the little boy is now 1 year 2 month old.

Brother love to scream! And he is really the complete opposite of young lady. While young lady is very ladylike, soft and gentle, brother is rough, naughty and actually CLIMB everywhere by the age of 9 months . Not to mention eating porridge by 4.5 months old. He has plenty of teeth and love eating chicken and meat! He started to walk a few steps now and I am expecting anytime he will start to run everywhere and that is when his kakak will have a fine time trying to chase him and making sure he dont get into trouble.

But for now, hubby and I am enjoying just the 2 of us days since the kids and housemaid are back in hometown with our parents until we go back to pick them up again. :)