Short talk: More on slob vs sob

So, I guess most married women (and ladies that stays with their dad and brother) understand what I meant when I said men are slob? HAHA! I thought its just this particular man that I married! To be frank, I NEVER EVER knew he is so messy la! I mean, we date for almost 9 years before we got married. And out of those 9 years, stayed together for almost a year. Although we stayed with a friend, I seriously never ever thought he is a slob.

Reason? Well, for one thing, when I know him in Kuching, he takes more shower than any other guys that I know. Shower when he wake up in the morning, shower before we go out (which can be more than once a day) and shower before going to bed. Err..I only shower in the morning before going to work and at night before bed. So, you can imagine why I think he is a clean-freak.

Oh well... as you all said, just close one eye and pretend not to see (more like close BOTH eyes and become no-eye-see). I just have to keep reminding myself that Love is blind, i.e. blind as in close BOTH eyes to all his faults, weaknesses and bad habits... Sigh!! Just wish some1 told me when I was still single how men are! BLUEK!!!

Okay okay..lets just pretend not see and gaze at the moon below! Hubby took this when we were at Genting that day..time was 4.30pm :)

Slob vs Sob?

The weather is really really hot here this 2 days. Worse still, it is the weekend with nothing much planned. So, staying home and just sweating myself silly. We actually have 3 fans on in the living room and the air still feel so so so humid and hot. Even sitting in front of the fan is not working because all that does is moving hot air around.

Right about now, looking like the seal in the photo below show looks great! Cacoon in a layer of ice and lying on ice! ARGHH!! Sheer bliss... But other than staying upstairs where the aircon is or sitting in front of the fridge with the door open, guess just have to bite and bear with it...

Have not been blogging much for a few months now. Not that I am abandoning my blog. Its just that, well, with work, work and more work, the only energy I seem to have nowadays after coming back from the office is a stint of facebooking just so that I am up-to-date with every1 progress.

Other than that would be cooking, cleaning up after my slob of a husband and watching whatever that is on Astro. Life is getting pretty tedious and tiring actually. Feeling rather frustrated because I feel so tired at the end of the day. Dont get me wrong, I enjoy doing what I am doing now but I just wish I have more energy and time after work to do something else, baking for example.

Sad to say, I seems to have more time to bake and experiment with cooking when I was back in Kuching. I guess back then, I need not worry about whats for dinner or doing daily routine stuff of keeping the house in order. I just cant imagine how things would be like if (err..when) we have little ones running around. Just makes me sigh in horror imagining cleaning up after 2 slobs instead of just 1...bbrrr...

Sometimes, I am just wondering, am I being too much of perfectionist and controlling freak? Is it wrong for me to want things back to where it suppose to be? I mean, it is so wrong of me to expect the bottle of soya sauce to be on the rack instead of the table NEXT to it? Or am I mean to request for the bottle of syrup to be put back at the original place on the table instead of being left wherever on the table? I dont know...sometimes..I wonder...

Saturday morning ranting

YAWN!!! Just woke up 45minutes ago. Well, not really true. I woke up at 6.30 this morning! Yup! Had to la because babe working today. So woke up to make him his oat and milk tea breakfast. And then sit awhile to chat with him before I go back to bed. I think it was roughly 7am by the time my head hit the bed. Wouldnt have woke up if babe's darn handphone didnt make those beeping noise that handphone makes when it running out of battery. SHEESH!

Anyway, I am awake, I look at my kitchen with the intention to clean and re-organise it abit. But then decided, uggh, forget it, breakfast first. So, I am having my coffee with pita bread now while washing Cook's Tour on Astro. I did make myself useful though, I clean whatever 'litter' that babe left around in the living room. Litter= old newspaper, empty ciggie box, empty cups, receipts, old lottery tickets and so on. I am suppose to vacuum and mop the whole place next but for now, I am going to enjoy my breakfast and do a little surfing.

I guess from this moaning and ranting, I HATE housework. I mean, if I have to do it, I will because I cannot stand too long living in a messy house but it just irritating because I didnt know till after living with babe that HE is such a messy person! GGRR!!! I told him pretty much the same thing too and he just gave me his cute smirk and smile. SHEESH! HOW TO get angry at that goofy smile ah? So, in the end, I just decided to clean the house once a week instead of picking up after him everyday. Too tiring la!

Something unexpected happened!

I am in a hotel in Penang now. Waiting for 2pm to check out and go to the airport to go back KL. Yap, I am on business trip, again. Anyway, it was a last minute decision for the trip and a one day trip. So, thought it would be super rush 2 days trip. We (yar, we, boss and I) left LCCT on at 6.55am flight on Thursday and arrived Penang airport around 7.40am. When we got out of the departure hall, the driver was already waiting with a sign that writes our name on it. Since it was still early, he asked if we want to have some breakfast first. Boss said ok, so we went lor.

He brought us to a road side shop that serve mainly roti baker (toast) and soft boiled eggs. Later I found out that the shop is more than 30years old already, pass down from generation to generation. Frankly speaking, I don't taste anything different with the toast and eggs. (Sorry if I offended anyone yah!). Anyway, we left Penang at around 8.40am and reach the fab around 9.40am. Then the whole day was meetings meetings meetings and more meetings. Tiring and not much achievement from the meetings. The only thing that I am happy about is that my boss also finally understand that it is not me not working to get more capacity from the fab but it is really the fab cannot (or dun want to) give more capacity because they have orders 2x of their capacity!

We actually left the fab 2 hours earlier than the 6pm that we planned. 1 hour trip to reach our hotel, check in, then we went for early dinner (had assam curry fish head! YUMMY!) and walked for about 1km to look for atm machine. Then walked another 1km back to the hotel. Stayed in for awhile then I got bored and decided to venture out along gurney drive to see if I can find any durian! hehe..I saw a shop selling some when I was with boss walking to our dinner. But sad to say, I cant find any stalls at all after that. I keep seeing people eating durians along the seaside but no matter how hard I look, I cant find anyone selling durians! Anyway, plan to venture out again later to see if I can get some. But..ermm..will I get banned from boarding the plane from smelling like durian?????

Anyway, something rather interesting happened yesterday at LCCT. Since the flight was so early and we both have no check in bags, we have checked in online the day before. And I thought can go into boarding hall straight away since oredi check in online n me no check in bag. Who knows, when I tried to go into the boarding hall, the security guard therenicely informed me that I must go counter 68 to get the print out chop. Sheesh, like that might as well no need to check in online right? Still have to queue also!

Frustrated but no choice since I only have half hour before boarding, I went to the counter and queue..long queue. Suddenly I realised that this African young guy was staring straight at me, into my eyes in fact. First thought that came to my mind was that this guy was a student at the college that I used to work in last time. But as hard as I tried, I cant place him anywhere. So, since I dont know him, I break eye contact thinking he must have mistaken me for someone else. Or he is actually looking at someone behind me. Then he suddenly, he came close to me and say: ni heng piaw liang (That is in mandarin: You are very pretty). I think I almost fainted when I hear that and again, I ignored him because number 1, I am already very late and number 2, I dont entertain strangers. Again, I looked away and I heard him telling his friends she must be mongolian. (SHEESH!)

I think he somehow realised that I can speak English because suddenly he asked: Excuse me, do you speak English. Me being a nice kind person, thought maybe he wanna ask for help or something lor...so i say yes. After all, he was obviously a kid in foreign country and I was thinking perhaps he dont know what he just said in mandarin or something like that. But I think I should have continue to ignored him because the moment i said yes, he say oh good!! And started to ask me where I am from...I of course replied Malaysia. Being polite, I asked back, where he from, michigan, US.Tthen he say he is going to Indonesia to work and transit in LCCT, before that, he was working in China (which explain his attempt to speak Mandarin).

He also explained that he actually want to complain because AirAsia tells him he have to pay for his baggage again when he tries to check in at LCCT but his school tell him no need. And that he called his embassy for help and was promptly informed by his embassy that AA soldhim ticket illegally because apparrently he must have a ticket back to US from Malaysia tooor else it would be illegal. Intridging and I wished him all the best of luck to convince AA personnel that.

Then suddenly he say, If I have known Malaysia have such pretty girl like you, 1 would have come sooner. (OMG! SO CHEESY!!!). I have no idea how to respond to that and just smile and looked away. It is just such a lowdown cheesy pick up line that I just refuse to dignify it by answering. Then he continued again a minute later and said you are really a cute lil girl. ARGH!! Where in the world did this kid come from? Jiak lak!! And he just have to continue and say, being so cute, you must have lots of bf. By then, I was not only super late but I was really lazy to entertain a kid, so, I told him, I am married and that I am not lil anymore, I am >30 years old. And guess what was his response to that? An attempt to look cute by giving me a puppy eye look! GAWD!!!!!!

Thank god it was finally my turn at the counter. Geez, in a million years, I will never imagine myself in a situation being picked up by a young African-American. He must be what, in his early 20s? Simply not interested at all. If he had been a more matured Englishman..now, that would be another story! HAHA! But it was a good laugh and definitely a good way to start the day of battle with the fab! Good for the ego you know! HAHA!

Raving Mumbling Groaning about the MAN

OK OK!! I am updating my blog. Not that I dont want to la but been busy since got back from my business trip to Penang. Some more, this weekend will be our quarterly staff meeting on Saturday and on top of that, the lady boss organised a motivational training on Sunday! Of all days...sigh.. This mean that the weekend is basically gone and this week will be super duper long week. Combine with next week, will feel even longer than that. Cant wait till the labour day holiday come, then we have 3days long break. Tempted to take Monday off, then can have 4 days off!

I am seriously in need of a long break to spring clean our home. I feel so depressed when I see the home in its current state but I am just too tired do much spring cleaning and simply procrasinating. I think it has something to do with the fact that my monthly should be due in the next few days. Initially thought I will be able to do it this weekend. Just take one day to clean up the whole place, vacuum, mop, wipe, etc. But looks like not possible.

I told babe that perhaps we should ask someone to come in this weekend and clean the whole place up. I mean I dont mind paying RM50 to the cleaner to do it as long as she does a good job. After that, perhaps will ask the cleaner to come in every 2 weeks once or something like that. But babe disagreed because he felt that RM50 per visit for our tiny place is too expensive. He even jokingly said that I give him the RM50 and he will do the spring cleaning.

Well, if he is serious about it, I definitely dont mind. But knowing him, he will not do it lar. I mean, he dont even put the things back to the original place after using. And he dont put his stuff at the designated place. He prefer to just leave everything on the dining table or coffee table. Initially, I will actually clean up for him and put the things back to its original place. But after doing it for a while and nagging, I just decided to forget it lar. I mean, I am not the only one staying there, so, why in the world do I need to make sure that everything is clean?

I got so upset the day before yesterday and compounded by PMS, I actually said to babe: I never know that when I marry you, this is what I have to do everyday. Then he asked me: So, you mean you regret marrying me la?. Which I responded: Yah!

Mean of me but I want him to know how serious I am about this lor. But I know it wont work because I give in too easily. Usually, I would rather just do it instead of waiting for him to decide to do. Like our place now, most likely I will be the one doing the spring cleaning next weekend.

This morning, on mix.fm, Pedro and Serena C' s topic of discussion was: Man turning into woman when in relationship. According to Pedro and Serena, when man in a relationship, they will usually become more girlish in term of household related stuff. I think they have not met my hubby :P

Random-ness and Unromantic hubby!

ALAMAK! Was my last posting really last Thursday? This is going to be a short one actually... Am super busy with work and boss is asking for reports on various things. I dont mind doing it if the resources are readily available but it seems that everytime he asked for a report, I have to dig through tonnes of old emails because the person that is suppose to supply the information is not able to provide them to me...SIGH!!

It seems that I am getting lazier and lazier to update the blog especially since after I got married. Let me see, to-date, I am 2.5months married? Do I feel any different between living-in-sin and being married? Ermm..not much except now I have a legimate reason for being his next of kin! :P

Anyway, fantastic long weekend because did absolutely nothing except half day yesterday morning in the office to finish up some work. Gave babe his special present on Friday after he picked me up from work. Cant wait till Saturday, the actual day to give him the present! I think I must have really surprised him because I didnt get much reaction out of him except why get such expensive clothes for him and why get 2. 1 is enough. Err..I think next time I wont bother liaw. SIGH!!!!

And guess what he say he wanna get for me! Microwave!! It is true what they say about presents after marriage. Gifts from husband will be things for the house too! Well, ok, so I been eyeing to buy a microwave for awhile but...but...he cannot be more romantic meh?? He basically said, I will contribute RMXXX and if extra, up to you laa? ALAMAK! So the not romantic at all. Me being me, directly told him what I thought lar. Then he asked me what I want..pengsan!! No element of surprise at all! Are all husbands like that ah??

Right! As I said, short one. Just gonna share some photos of beautiful cupcakes that dad's business partners gave him when he was here last week and also the bak kut teh that we had at Klang.

Taking the fish for a walk!

GOSH! I woke up this morning with pain in my bone especially when I flex my hands and fingers. I think I better get the bitter herbal tea during lunchtime later to make sure that this does not get worse. Most likely the body is too heaty and went abit crazy because of the unpredictable weather, very hot and then rain and then very hot again. Weird weather we been having and that on top of the haze that I can see from the office window. Oh, of course, durian that I had with mom last week. But frankly, I didnt really take that much. Furthermore, babe already warned, dont eat too much durian or else he wont entertain me when (notice I said when and not if) I fall sick.

It seems that no matter what I take after that to try and neutralise the affect of the durian does not work at all. I tried drinking salt water right after eating durian. Even drink the salt water right out of the durian shell but to no avail. Tried taking rhino cooling water but that too seems to have little effect. (Personally, I think rhino water is just alot of crap by very good marketeers trying to re-brand their mineral water or something). Then, of course, there is the faithful herbal tea but me being me, although the bitter herbal tea works, I wont take those bitter herbal tea until it is ABSOLUTELY necessary. (Stupid right? Should have just pinch the nose and gulp it down to avoid all this discomfort!)

Anyway, babe actually came pretty early yesterday to pick me up from work. Usually, he will take his time and leave the office closer to 6pm although he finished work at 5.30pm. That means that he will only arrived here around 6.30pm or 6.45pm depending on the traffic condition. But yesterday, he was actually here by 6.10pm. Someone was rushing to go to the aquarium shop to get a new filter pump for his koi at home! The old pump went kapoot the night before. Luckily we have a spare airpump at home and temporary feed the koi air using those. (you would think as newly weds, he would be more excited to come and pick up the wife. Instead, the wife loose out to the koi! SIGH!!!)

We went to this aquarium near our place at Bdr Sri Damansara. We sort of discovered this place during the weekend when we bring my parents and sis for a drive. And we are glad that we did because the aquarium shop sells things at a reasonable price. Also, the owners are really friendly and even remember babe's name eventhough it was only our second visit yesterday. Also, you can clearly see that the aquarium shop was not just business but rather, a hobby and passion.

If you walk slightly to the back of the shop, you will a tank with 2 huge koi in it and one koi have a slight injury on its back. Aparrently, the owner of the koi actually bring the fish to the shop to ask the shop owner for help. Yah, sort of like a hospital for fish. The shop owner said that he actually sedate the fish and take it out to put medicine directly on the wound and leave it there for 5minutes before putting the fish back to the tank again. Now, that I what I call dedication.

I mean if you see how he put his hand into the tank to pet the koi! WAH LAU! It makes me want to try and pet them too. And of course, this makes me eat my own word about not able to pet fish and bring them for walks! But I feel shivers and my hair stand up whenever I see babe feed his fishes. He would hold a few food pellets between his fingers and dip them into the aquarium slightly. Then those fishes will actually swim near and take the food from his fingers! GOSH! No wonder he is thinking of getting a bigger aquarium for them. (People say the fish growth is limited by the size of their tank).

Note to babe: NOPE! I am not buying you the 4-feet aquarium for your birthday :S

LONG LONG LONG WEEKEND

I am so blardy tired and simply too lazy to do much posting last few days. I think my last post was about a week or so ago? Well, parents and sis came on Friday evening. We left the house at around 7.45pm to the KLIA to pick them. Apparently, their flight suppose to arrived by 8.30pm but end up, they only came out from the terminal at around 9pm-ish. And since bro already called to warned me that they have alot of bags and for sure wont be able to fit everyone and the bags too into the car. So, got dad to buy the ticket for a taxi to go down with us too. (Yar, crazy just getting another taxi to carry the bags right?:P)

Anyway, we finally arrived home around 10pm-ish. After unpack and get the sleeping arrangements sorted out, we went to bed around midnight. The next day, Saturday, spent the day laze around during the daytime especially since it was so hot outside. Bring them to 1u for walk around dinner. By the time we reached home, it was already almost 11pm. So, again, get ready for bed and only finally sleep around midnight.

Next day, Sunday, we woke up and have Yong Taufu brunch at a shop in SS2. Cannot remember the name but the food was so-so only. Then we drove up to Genting. Took us almost an hour plus just to drive up and the experience was really scary. This is actually the first time that babe and I ever drive ourselves up to Genting. Previously, we will usually take the bus or taxi. So, I can imagine the car straining just to carry the 5 of us not-so-small-size people up the steep slope.

Once there, check-in took about 45minutes. After check in, dad immediately went to the casino while babe, mom, sis and I went for a walk and early dinner. We went into the casino too after that and spend our time there till around 9pm. Then, mom, sis and I went back to the room. After mom and sis sleep, I decided to go back to the casino to join babe lar. After all, it is not often that I come to the casino and end up get cooped up in the hotel room because fall sick! It was a good experience. Win some and lose some. In the end, lost about RM200.

Babe and I only went back to the room to sleep around 4.30am. Dad was even more terror! He only came back at around 6am-ish and didn't even sleep. Mom, dad and sis went for breakfast after that while babe and I continue our sleep in peace. They came back around 9am-ish. Parents decided to go to casino again. Babe was still sleeping. So, I stayed in the room with sis and him. After babe woke up, parents still not back. So, we decided to go and search for food.

Mom called me around 11am-ish and we ate at the KFC. That was really a horrible experience. I think the KFC there no quality control! The taste was abit weird and even the hot & spicy does not look like the usual ones! I for one will never go to KFC there ever again. I rather bring bread or something if we go again! We went back to the room again after that to pack up and check out. Dad came back to the room around 12.30pm.

Babe and I decided we want to go for a short round at the casino again. Something about testing a theory that we have. Wont tell you guys what it is or else you will call me crazy or something. Maybe one day, I will tell you guys and see what you all say. But for now, it is a secret. Anyway, we finally left Genting at around 3pm and reached home around 5pm. Unpacked, rest and then we went out for dinner.

Tuesday, I was still on leave but had to wake up at 6.30am as I need to send babe to work so that we can use the car for the day. Dad have a few appointments set. Left the house at 7am and I only reached home at 9am. And then left the house again at 10am. This time with dad, mom and sis. First destination, somewhere near Mines Wonderland. Nope, we didnt go to Mines but some shop lots behind it. Dad had his busienss appointment and then the people he met up bring us all for lunch.

Then next appointment is at Jln Perubatan. So, drove all the way. Took about an hour to reach the place. Waited while dad have his meeting till around 4.30pm. Then we drove all the way to Klang to pick babe up. That took another hour because of the traffic jam caused by the rain. Got babe to drive us all back home from his office and I sat at the back and promptly fall asleep. Babe said I was snoring :(

Reached home at around 6.30pm. Everyone shower and change. Then we went out to Shogun at 1u for dinner since it was mom's birthday. After dinner around 9.45pm, we went to Jusco to get some groceries because I will be working the next day. Need to make sure they have food at home because they wont be having any transport to go around while we are at work. Again, we only finally reached home around 11pm and sleep around midnight!

Really really really tired!!! But it was fun lar seeing my parents and sis enjoy themselves. But I only realised yesterday that I did a miscalculation. They are going back this coming Monday and I somehow thought they are going back the following Monday. Mean that I still have this week and next week to bring them around. But instead, only left Friday, Saturday, Sunday and part of Monday. DAMN! If I know, I would have applied for Friday and next Monday off together with the last Friday to Tuesday.

So now, understandably, boss did not approved my leave for Friday (tomorrow) but ok for Monday. Instead, he said I can go back earlier tomorrow once I finished up all my work for the day. So, that is something lar. Maybe I can go back around 2-3pm. Then at least can spend more time with them. I am wondering if I should send babe to work tomorrow and Saturday morning too so that we will at least have transport to use. But that would mean I have make the 45min drive to send and pick him from work.

Hhhm..need to think about it first. I could ask him but we are having our silent war again today. Dun feel like talking about it on the blog. For the sake of my parents, I will maintain the peace for now. But next week, he cant blame me if I do something drastic and 'disappear' to destress and not tell him about it! Yar! That is how geram I feel right now....

My Babe's Pet Project

Guess what we did after work yesterday? Nolar, not THAT or whatever *something* that the senget brain is thinking. Babe and I went to Carrefour Subang lar! Yap, all the way from 1U. To do what you ask? Babe want to buy aquarium there because it is cheap, 2feet aquarium for RM45 (But end up we buy more than that....*roll eyes and shake head*).

I actually have a meeting at 6pm yesterday but due to my colleague R ingenuity, the meeting was over in 10minutes. But I cannot go back yet ler. I told babe to leave his office late so that he dont have to wait too long for me mar. How I know the meeting finished even earlier than his usual pick-me-up-time. On top of that, when I called him at 6.15pm, it was raining really heavily and he cant leave his office without getting soak.

So, I went to 1U lor to walk around searching for more ribbons while waiting. I was hoping that Kee is still around since she mentioned that she wanted to go shopping after work as well but she was already almost at her car when I called. Anyway, didn't buy anything at all. The ribbons are so darn expensive. 2 meters for more than RM10! That is what I called insane and cut-throat. Also, wasted quite alot of time at Coldstorage queuing to pay for the drink that babe ordered me to buy for me...

By the time he picked me up, it was already 7pm and we hear on the mix.fm the usual rush hour jam is still happening at LDP and the road to Subang. We decided to go for dinner at the nearby economy rice shop while waiting for the rush hour jam to subside. By the time we arrived Carrefour Subang, it was closed to 8pm but no problem there since not much people is around on weekdays! Blissful! hahaha.

Walked around checking out the electrical stuff first. Hoping to find water heater or combination microwave at bargain. But nothing lor! Then we go straight to the aquarium section. As I said, initially we planned to go there to get the 2 feet aquarium and JUST the aquarium which cost RM45. I thought, why not. That is cheap and he just need to find a cupboard to put the aquarium on and I can USE the cupboard to store some of the stuff at home.

I should have known that things will never go as plan when it comes to shopping for hobby and interest. We end up buying a full set of fish rearing equipment, a 2 feet aquarium that comes with the plastic cover, a filter pump and a stand for the aquarium to sit on. Total damage, RM190. Oh, plus sponge for the filter and anti-chlorine. So, total is RM193. We paid and went home immediately after that. Babe wants to go back and set up his new toy!

All the way back, he keep asking what fish to keep! He cant make up his mind lar. Awhile ariwana (sp?), then changed his mind and thought of goldfish and then changed his mind again back to ariwana. Goodness! Like little boy! hahaha! But I am happy he is happy lar. Then keep mumbling that we should have at least gotten a small small fish to put in the aquarium first. I stopped him from buying the fish at Carrefour because (1) We are gonna be in Kch for 2wks. Who take care? and (2) The aquarium needs to be clean and water need to be filtered first lar or else the fishes all die lar!

Does this mean that I have an excuse to get a small toy dog as pet????

Am I Blind? Or going Blind?Hhhmm....

Babe and I is forever teasing each other and say that we don't sayang (love) each other and that we have some affair here and there. But sometimes, when we talk seriously, I am trying to imagine the next 30-40years (or longer hopefully) of our lives together. It does makes me smile as I imagine in wonder and amazement that even a lifetime together with this man might not be enough.

Very often, me the kepoh (busybody) will somehow play the role of a love counsellor to some of my friends. They will often ask me, how do you know if he is the one? My answer is simple, look into yourself and ask, is the love that you have for the man is blind? I know, you are most probably asking me if I am insane for giving that kind of advice. How can I tell someone that is not sure to jump into with closed eyes? Well, actually, that is NOT what I meant. Alot of people have the misconception of the term "Love is Blind".

Perhaps it will make more sense if I add more words to it? Is your love for the man blind enough that you are willing to close your eyes and accept all his flaws and imperfection? Can you picture yourself living with someone that takes is for granted that you will be doing all the housework while he sit in front of the tv after work? Can he accept that you will be nagging him for this? Will he miss it when you decided to stop nagging? (LOL! Guys! Admit it. You miss it when your ladies stop nagging at you).

After dating this man for more than 8 years, I am still discovering things about him, some pleasant and others not so. Although we should never try to change someone from who he is but there are habits that I think we can help to get rid of or improve. Rarely, are things clear cut that it is split right down the middle. I realised that living together is all about taking and giving. There is always one partner that takes and another gives. In this way, harmony in the marriage and relationship will be maintained.

I guess I am lucky that after many years of dating one man (and him one lady), we are still very passionate and very much into each other. Although, sometimes we being human, we do take things for granted, we will always be able to find humor in things. To me, this is the key essential in a successful relationship, i.e. able to laugh WITH each other at our own or each other silliness.

Of course another essential thing in a good relationship is a ability to converse and communicate. I don't think I can stomach being lovey-dovey and stary daze eyes gazing at each other all the time. And just everyday talk in flowery terms. Ugh....So boring! It tickles me when sometimes, babe and I have interesting and heated discussion that we forgot we are not alone. Sometimes, our friends got pretty worried and thought we are arguing. It seems that suddenly everyone was so silent and only the two of us talking. But after awhile, they are used to this and even join in the debate! hehehe..

AIDUI! I am getting so errm..I also dunno what word to describe. Must be because been exchanging sms with babe's sis and getting hyped up by her for the upcoming big day :P

Will You?

I was telling my friends in Kuching that I am finally getting excited about the wedding in Dec. I mean, I was excited when we first decided we will go ahead and do the full thing, i.e. church & dinner reception. But then, after that, since everything was planned by our parents in Kuching, we basically don't really feel very involved. It is as if we are invited guests, albeit, the guest of honor but just am not so excited yet.

I guess that is why I been putting off my exercise regime and eat without much care (GRIN!). But after the bridal shop hunting and gown testing, I suddenly realised, Oh MY GOSH! I am going to call babe my hubby! And eventhough after more than eight years of dating and living in sin (as Nick said) for about four months now, the novelty of calling him as my hubby/husband, well, it just feel super romantic and sweet! Am I crazy or what?

I wonder he feels the same about this too. I mean, when he want to talk about me to others, eg his colleagues, friends, relatives, he will have to say 'my wife'. *grin!* But that babe is really such a tease because when I asked him, he said "I will tell them you are my sister!"..GRRRR! HAHA! Ok, ok, I am being silly and bore you guys enough will all this day dreaming.

*Yawn* Such a beautiful weather to sleep this morning. The sky is cloudy and I bet it will be fantastic to laze in bed under the blanket with absolutely nothing to do. But nowadays, even weekends, my brain refuses to shut down and leave work alone. So stressed up that I am even starting to dream about it. But I learnt something new to release the stress!

Yesterday evening, I left my laptop in the office drawers. Purposely don't want to bring it back because babe and I was planning to go 1U to take our passport size photo for our wedding registration form submission. Let me tell you, the feeling of going home without that heavy burden at my back was really good! I mean, most of the time except weekends, I will not on the laptop eventhough I brought it home with me.

But I guess just having it with me in the evening makes me feel all stressed up because I keep wondering if I should take out the laptop to do a little bit more work for the day. So, instead of that, unless there is absolutely something that I must complete, I will not bring the laptop back during weekdays. Just going to leave it here and go back. And if boss make noise, then too bad lor! HHMPFF!!

Rules!

Three shocking news in one day but 2 out of the 3 I cannot say it here or else a lot of people will take the next flight to KL and kill me! So, instead, I will settle with this: THE EFFECTIVE WAY TO COURT A GIRL! Just have a few rules actually:
Rule#1: She is the QUEEN of your world

Rule#2: Always pay for EVERYTHING. (Even if she insists she wants to share, don’t let her. Kidnap her purse/handbag/etc)

Rule#3: Buy her presents! (Even when she says no need, in her heart, she will be very happy!)

Rule#4: ALWAYS pick and send her home when going on a date (Borrow/Steal a car if you don’t have one!)

Rule#5: CALL her more than once a day and everyday! (Even if you have no specific reason, tell her you call her to listen to her voice!)

Rule#6: Be yourself! (Please make sure be yourself mean that you includes rule#1-5!)

Ladies (or gents), feel free to add on!

Note: You might not agree with me but I don’t care! I think it is a rule and if you want to follow, mah si follow lor. If not, the ignore me lor! Not as if you are my hubby or bf pun! :P hahaha!

Till Death Do Us Part

It is Friday I know, I know, my post this week seems to be start with reminding you all what day it is...). And it promise to be a great day! Not only it is the last day before the weekend is here, but my boss is on leave and our weekly conference call with our boss overseas at 9am today has just been postponed! Ate a wonderful breakfast that one of my colleague bought for us. And we are planning to go out for a great lunch later.

Planning to go to this place called Izzi Pizza (http://izzipizza.com) that seems to have some great promotion (http://izzipizza.com/my/?modul=promo). One that stick to the mind is the 65% discount if you are using citibank credit card but there are of course terms and conditions that applies. However, I think those are reasonable terms and conditions though. We are planning to have the RM12.99 per person for starter, main course, dessert and soft drink for our lunch today.

Some more, if we can hussle seven people to go out for lunch today, the 7th person will eat free. this means that plus tax, one person pay about RM12.80 only instead of RM14.94. Thats RM2.14 savings per person. Not much but with inflation, every dollar and cents count. There are a few other interesting promotion as well, eg. buy one pizza, free one.

I am still listening to the mix.fm, the Lie Detector Test program. Getting pretty hooked to the program. Yesterdays was abit boring because well, nothing happened! No drama, nothing. Yar Yar, very mean of me but the whole idea of listening in to this kind of program is because you want to hear about other people's woes, problems and drama right? (Gosh! I am showing my true colors and turning into a mean mean mean person??)

Today program has another husband and wife couple, married for 10 years with kids. Apparently, the wife felt that the husband has been abandoning the 3 kids and her, i.e. not doing his fatherly and husband duty as he should. She felt that there is very love in the relationship and the romance has died. So far, the program has been very tense and the husband is getting more and more nervous with each question. At one point, the DJs are even asking him if he is he alright because he was breathing really heavy and fast, i.e. nervous.

The answers he gave to all the questions are the 'correct' answers but the lie detector machines are seeing through him at every point and calling him a liar! The machine shows that he love his wife still be he felt very stress going home to the wife everyday. He rather be at work. He regretted marrying the wife and he has been unfaithful to her. DJs asked the husband 3 times has he been unfaithful and he answered no, but the machine found him to be deceptive.

Asked the husband if he wants to be with the wife for the rest of his life and he said yes, and for once, he is faithful to her. Then ask him, if the wife will stay with him for the rest of her life. He said confidently yes, machine say that this is the truth. And final question, whether he will improve himself after all this and he said yes, machine once again found him to be telling the truth. And it ended with that. Phew!

Through all this, I admire the wife because she basically also said that she will stay with the husband despite knowing the truth that the hubby has been unfaithful to her and regretted marrying her. The reason? For her kids~! I have mixed feelings when I hear this. On one hand, why should the husband be given a second chance if he is not even doing what he is suppose to do as a husband and father. On the other hand, 10 years is a long time to throw away.

It seems that in most cases, the wife will always think of the kids first before deciding whether to end a marriage or not. Where as the husband, well, I really don't know what they are thinking. Are the caveman gene so deep in their DNA that they just can't help their urge to conquer more than one woman after certain time? It seems that it is no longer surprising to hear a husband after x-time of marriage, somehow, have mistress at one point of their life!

Of course, I am not saying all husbands are like that. I am just saying that it seems to be turning into a trend. Anyway, as I was saying again and again, if you can't handle the truth, then, for godsake, do not register yourself and your whoever for the lie detector test. You might not like the truth as much. It is one thing to suspect something but totally something else to have your suspicion confirmed, especially on national radio!

You know and I know LAR!

Friday! What can I say about Friday? Friday is the most anticipate day of the week by almost everyone. It is so loved that there is even a well known restaurant named after it, i.e. TGIF (Thank God it's Friday). We all love Friday so much that the moment that day is here, the load on our shoulder seems to be much lighter compared to when it was Monday! So light in fact that we actually feel like dancing, jumping and make our extra bits jiggle like nobody business!

In fact, I know that many are already making plans to do things that you will normally not do on any other days. I know babe and I definitely love Fridays. Well, maybe I love it more than him since he still have to get up to work on some Saturdays. So, what we planned for tonight? SHOPPING! hahaha! In fact, babe was gently hinting yesterday after picking me up from work that his colleagues told him Jusco have Sales.

I replied, "Of course Sales, now mega sales month, everywhere also sales bah!"

Then he gave me that surprised look. Haiyah, that babe, sometimes really don't know he don't know or just teasing me! hhmpf! Anyway, so we will be walking at the mall near my office later. Frankly speaking, since it is so convenient for me to go to the mall, practically have to walk through it everyday when I was driving myself to walk, I just simply not really interested in window shop or actual shop at this place.

Not that I have walked all over the place mind you. But rather, going to the mall is like so routine, something that I do 5 days in a week to get to work. So, on Fridays and weekends, rather not go near the place. But then, it is the most convenient and nearest to our apartment lor. But since babe said he want to get some work pants, and this place have 2 anchor stores, i.e. Jusco and Parkson, then should be more choice for him. (I asked him, why he need new work pants suddenly. He said want to get those in darker color instead of the beige or light brown that he has now. Personally, I think his current pants must be getting tighter but he deny it so strongly & seriously when I asked that I think I better not tease him:P)

Then we plan to have dinner here. Too many choices here and we are not sure what to eat yet. If babe have his way, we will most likely go to Shillin Taiwan Snack House again for his favourite oyster mee sua and XXL crispy chicken. I am trying to change his mind . I am pretty sick of the oyster mee sua actually! When I first tasted it, it as like heaven on earth as I really like oysters. But everytime there is any friends from Kuching, we will bring them there to try it. The saying too much of good things......

Hopefully I can persuade babe to walk around first and try to explore something new. Of course, if he is keen to have the Japanese buffet at Shogun, I totally do not mind at all! But, my appetite was not what it used to be. I have to say that since I moved here, my ability to eat overloaded amount of food is practically over. Sad but good thing too since it is a pleasant way to control my daily food portion.

However, when going to places like the Japanese buffet, so much food, so little space! I remember going there twice already in the almost four months that I am here. Both times was for lunch and both times were treat by our boss from US. I think there were 6 of us and plus boss, would be 7. Meaning he paid RM350+ for the lunch. But then, divide that by the exchange rate, it is only about US$100+? Cheap consider it is Japanese food for 7 pax!

Anyway, as I was saying, on both occasions, I had only a few slices of salmon sashimi, beef sashimi, salmon rolls with egg roe, deep fried softshell crab, some duck meat, some tempura (more like 2 pcs of tempura prawn), some mushi, sharkfin soup and fruits for dessert! By the time I started on my dessert, I am actually so full and stuffed that I just need something really light to sooth the tummy. Really a waste if you ask me because the whole idea of going to the Japanese buffet and paying RM50 for it is so that you can eat super duper huge amount of fresh expensive seafood!

But luckily both time was not paid by me or else I sure feel wasted. However, I am looking forward to going with babe at least once to Shogun. Want to see him enjoy the food there! I know he love salmon sashimi very much! If we go to SS15, he would definitely order a plate that cost us RM12+ for 6 thick slices of sashimi. So, at Shogun, he can eat all he want at a fixed price! I will definitely going to enjoy watching him enjoy his food!

Habits & Reincarnation - Power of Love!

Yesterday, while we were shopping at Tesco, I was checking out the price of a certain brand of ladies pad that I bought at warehouse sales at the ground floor of our office building the other. Just want to make sure that we got our value for money bah. It is a brand that I have never used before but my friends told me that it is not bad. Plus, it was really cheap apparently, so I thought, since cheap, buy lar. (I know I know, girls. Buy anything even if don’t need as long as cheap and at a bargain!) Anyway, this is not the story I want to tell you lar.

While I was looking around, I realised that there is a guy is looking up and down, with a trolley, a list in his hand and speaking very softly into his handphone. Normally, this is nothing surprising since we are at a hypermarket and there are men that shops for groceries. But what caught my attention is the guy is actually shopping for pad! Yup, he was checking the brand name and so forth in the same aisle as me, trying to look as ordinary as possible I suspect while discreetly as whoever it is on the line which type to get!

Wah!! I really envy the lady on the line that he is talking to (I assume it is lady lar!). I mean how many guys out there will willingly go to the store and help his gf/wife get pad???? I think not many. I can see many gals head bobbing and nodding agreeing with me on this. I bet you all, well most of you, will agree with me that you will sayang (love) your hubby/bf even more if he willingly agrees to help you go to the store and buy your pad/ tampon!? Haha! But alas, there are not many such men out there! I am not even sure my babe will do that for me. I won’t even bother to ask him lar. Waste my time to ask and hear him say no.

I am really having a hard time getting my babe to help me around the house actually. What more to say go to the store to buy that! In fact, was comparing notes with RK about his hubby and my babe. We found out that men are generally the same, soooo MESSY!! He never put things back to where he takes them from. For example, house key, we come back wherever, he will open the door, goes in, lock the door and dump the keys on the table instead of hanging it at the hook designed for the purpose of hanging up the keys! And sometimes, he don’t even remember where he puts them and of course, I will be the mangsa (victim) to be asked to look for it! Geez! How not to nag like this?

And then hor, they seems to like to leave their used cups and plates wherever they like, specifically, where the tv or computer are. When there are no longer any cups or plates in the kitchen, only then, they will remember to bring it to the kitchen. And when nagged about it, they will bring it to the kitchen and proceed to dump it in the kitchen sink. Wahhh! Where is the housemaid? Usually, when I complained about this or nag, he will say, “You didn’t ask me to do ler”. Geram or not???? Kek si or not???? Of course, he will say this while grinning his goofy grin and makes all my anger melts away! At times, I just too frustrated and lazy to nag some more. So instead, I will do them myself lor!

So, now, my apartment toilet is super dirty and messy. The living room have so many things lying around on, under and near the coffee table. Recently, I simply cannot tahan already and dump all those things into a basket and each time he leave the things OUTSIDE the basket after use, I will sigh super loud and take the offensive item, and put it back into the basket. So far, he seems to take the hint. So, perhaps, I shouldn’t nag anymore. Instead, should use reverse psychology? But at times, it is really hard not to nag lor! What to do, who ask me to sayang him so much that I am willingly turning two blind eyes at his fault? Sigh….

Eight years plus wor! Some people actually asked me, not boring so long already. I will always say nope, not at all. Actually, we still feel like we just start dating but minus all the nervousness and worry of rejection. In fact, I think even the next 50 years together might still be too short. If there is such thing as reincarnation, I would willingly reincarnate back many lifetime as long as each lifetime is with him. Silly hor?

My Hero!

Simply can’t resist to login and blog a few words today. Babe said something that really touched my heart this morning. It was a simple matter but the thought reminds me why I decided to take the big leap in faith and relocate to KL. It was such a small matter that when I tell you about it later, I can guarantee that you will have either one of this reaction:

What!? Like that only

OR

OOhhhh, ain’t that sweet?

So the story: This morning, had to wake up 15minutes earlier than usual so that I can be the first one to take a shower and get ready for work. Had to be in the office by 8am to sit in the usual weekly conference call. So blur blur me go take bath and by the time I am done dressing up, the water boil liaw in the kitchen. So, I go make babe’s tea and oatmeal for his breakfast (as usual lar). After that, bring both to the room and proceed to put on my make up. After awhile, babe also finish taking shower and changed lar.

We both sit in the room, relaxing before rushing off to work. Then suddenly I realized that my right hand is bleeding abit and quite pain lor. At first, cannot remember where I get the cut. Actually not just a cut. More like a chunk of the skin was ripped off. Ok Ok, exaggerated but it was really pain mar. Showed to babe and then I suddenly remember how I might have gotten the cut! It was when I was trying to open the condense milk can with the blasted can opener. I really really hate those type of can opener. You know, the type that instead of clamping it on and turn, this is the one that have sharp pointed tip that you basically use to cut the can open.

Well, I don’t really know how to use it mar! And always worry that I will cut myself somehow. (yar yar clumsy! Bluek!!!) But this morning since babe was still in the shower, I thought I give it a try lor. And true enough, my hand somehow slipped. At the time I didn’t realized a chunk of my skin was sliced off mar. I was just glad I managed to open the can big enough for me to dip the spoon in for some condensed milk for the oat. When I told babe, he say next time ask him to open lar, don’t open it myself. Wahh sehh!!! So sweet of my babe!!! Usually he will laugh and say me clumsy mar!!!!

There! Laugh all you want...hmmpfff!! Dont care:P

Right! Back to work now. Short posting this one because I can’t help myself and not blab about what happened this morning~! Hahaha…later ppl..mucks!

Animal Calls

Is cat whistling at a girl considered a compliment? As a girl in my midteen and being well endowed in the front part (blessing or not, that is another topic entirely), I have always dreaded walking pass construction sites. I know for sure that I will be hearing 'psstt pssttt' or 'wooowit' or 'moi moi'. At first, I was really terrified (young girl mar) although it was broad daylight. Then after that, it got irritating and embarrassing. Even worst, when the animal noises is accompanied by lewd remarks. It got so unbearable that I start to take another route to take the bus to school. The other route was not much pleasant either because some inconsiderate owners let their big gigantic dog roam freely to munch on whoever they fancy. But I guess I rather fend off ugly dogs than human being. (bluek!!!)

Really cannot understand what guys that actually make cat calls at girls were thinking. Do they think that they will be able to get the girl that way? Or it just their natural instinct to act like baboon to make a fool of themselves on purpose? If anything, that would be the worst pick up line ever if you considering making funny noises sexy?! Geez, no wonder men have no clue when it comes to woman if they think that is sexy. Unless you are breathing hard and sighing from exertion from making love, then, other noises is definitely not sexy!

Phew...now that I got that out of the system, I can continue with other things...hahaha..

The weekend was a rather full one. When I got back on Friday night, mom promptly informed me that there would be no electricity on Saturday from 8am till 6pm because SESCO would like to do some upgrading work in our area. The upgrading is good but the timing is not. Why cant they choose a working day where not many people will be at home to do the upgrading work.

After all, they do not have to go into our houses to do it. Basically, what they did was make increase the height of the pole. I guess some big lorries been knocking them down or something. So, I am pretty sure they do not need to be in any of the houses. If that is the case, why not give less inconvenient to most of us and do the upgrading during working days? And also, I thought SESCO do not work during weekend? So OT claim? And we are wondering why we do not prosper?

Hhhmm...I sure sounded grumpy today huh? By right I should be feeling very happy today especially since I am going to be on leave tomorrow and day after to clear my leave. Will be going to Sarikei with my parents. Dad have an appointment there, mom and sis following. So, since I still have leave, I might as well take. Also, Obi will be on leave starting 3-13 Apr. Pity the guys lar or else I initially planned for Thurs and Fri so that I will have a long weekend before coming back to clear the paperwork on 7 Apr. (Another reason to be happy! No need to see obi face after today!!! hahaha).

Secretly Admiring and Admired

How I wish things can be different. How I wish he had been daring enough to make the move earlier. How I wish situation is different. I guess I can wish all I want but situation will not change. I am no longer available. I will be someone wife soon and he is too late to do anything about it. But maybe it is for the best. After all, it has been more than ayear and if guy that cant reach out and get what he wants, might not be someone that is worth taking chances with right? Only my babe is true. After all, he is the one that went through thick and thin with me for the last eight years plus.

Don't get me wrong, I love my babe very much or else I wont be overcome with joy when he proposed. I know he love me very much too and this is the reason that I can trust him totally when he decided to go to KL to work. I want to spend the rest of my life with my babe. I want to share every joy and happiness with him. People say that when you can see yourself having children together and smile at the idea of the kids calling him daddy, then you are hooked to him! And I can see him carrying out daughter/son in his arms, failing asleep together with the baby on his chest. I remember thinking to myself, gosh, 30-40 years in the future together, is that enough?

But can a gal that will be marrying someone soon still have crushes on someone another guy? I mean just harmless admiring from afar. Well, maybe not so afar since we still meet and chit chat because of our responsibilities. I guess I am just asking for trouble for entertaining this kind of thoughts. After all, nothing can come out of it. Even if he did make his move now, it is too late. This kinda remind me of the song by Michael Learns to Rock! hahaha..

Aiyaiyai, this is getting too dangerous. Must stop this! Stupid stupid chi sin crazy idiotic me! ARRGGH!!! I need coffee! I am not thinking rationally without coffee. Cant even make proper sense of what I am talking about. So tempted to delete this whole posting! Nothing can come out of this ....right? GGRRR..someone SLAP ME!!!!!!

Obnoxious Men!

I am still feeling some fuzziness in my mind today especially after a gossiping session about a good friend of ours. Yap, I admit that, that is what girls do when we get together or start chatting. We start to compare notes and opinion about what we think about other people especially our friends' partner or newly found gf. But we also talk about other stuff as well such as what we will be doing, our plans, our future, our job (the frustration of it anyways). And of course, we share our happiness as well. But we do know where to draw the line when it comes to sharing intimate information about our spouse/partner or other half.

I got really upset when I found out that one of our guy friend is actually sharing intimate things with the guys. I mean, although I do not know his gf that well, it still erk me to think that this friend can be so obnoxious and totally have no respect for his gf at all. Gosh, how would he like it if his gf tells us about how he perform in the bedroom!!? There are something that should always remain private not matter how close the guys are to the buddies. This is call RESPECT!

Ok, so we girls do gossip as well about the guys but never in a million years would we think to share any private intimate details with the girls. You want to know what we talk about when we get together? Sigh, hope the girls out there wont kill me. We talked more about emotions and feelings. Most of time, we are just sharing opinions, ideas and suggestions. For example, whether we think A and H has changed after getting married, i.e. more mellow. We also share the happy happenings in our lives. But never in a million years would we think to share intimate intimate information.

To me, telling the guys when he made his conquest and whether the girl is a virgin or not is DEFINITELY A BIG NO! And why in the world would he want to share such information with the guys anyway? Not only does it show big big disrespect for his gf but also sounded boastful! Is he trying to show-off that he were able to seduce the gf and make conquest? This might seems like juicy gossip but frankly speaking, it changed the way I look at this guy. If want to be blunt, I would say he is a big color wolf seducing innocent girl. And what if the gf found out what he did, how would she feel??????

I really wonder what the guys talked about when they get together especially during their drinking session. I wonder if I asked babe, he would tell me or not. Hei, all the guys out there, you want to enlighten me what is the normal topics that you guys talked about?

How to Get the Girl that You Want

Did I surprised anyone with this topic? Well, I am sure alot of girls out there are like me, i.e. wish that the guy that you fancy will do the right thing already and talk to you. Or when the guy actually talk to you, you are so utterly disappointed and although it might just be first impression but whatever feelings or mood you have for the guy just fly out the door? I simply can't resist doing this. I mean, who would know better on what is the most effective ways to approach a girl than a girl?

Actually, for us girls, it is really simple. The most important thing is FIRST IMPRESSION! The guy don't even have to be very handsome or look like a Italian Greek Model or God. He just need to impress us the first time that we see him. And I can tell you immediately that those corny pick up line does not work! What makes the guy think that saying something like "Have I seen you somewhere" or "I think I just saw an angel" will work? Girls are not stupid or brainless you know.

Remember to speak loud enough so that she can hear you. I am not asking you to shout, mind you! That is a no-no too. Just talk in loud audible volume so that she don't have to strain her ears to hear you. Trust me, she will not ask you to repeat yourself if she can't hear and chances are, she might just tune out or pretend to hear. This is no good too because she might be missing some important information that you might like her to know about you. Also, if you mumble, then we will perceive you as weak. So, speak up.

Once you get her attention, remember to BREATH! LOL~ I know it might it nerve wrecking and the possibility of being rejected is painful but that is LIFE. Slow down and don't talk like chipmuck! LOL!~ I know you suddenly have so many things to tell her but do it slowly. After all, you need to captivate her and not shock her! And guys, don't use your whiny voice. There is nothing worse than listening to someone with pitchy high voice especially from a guy. It might works on Franny from The Nanny but unless you have a body like hers, practice and train yourself to speak from your chest.

On the other hand, don't talk like a robot either! Gasp! You don't want to bore her with emotionless flat voice too. It always helps if you talk about a topic that you are passionate about but for godsake, I am pretty sure the girls am not interested in how you clean your socks yesterday.....

Oh yes, don't forget about your body language. Sit up or stand straight in your most natural posture without hunching or curving your back. Not asking you to be stiff like a statue lar! And try to take up more space. Don't withdraw into yourself. When sitting, sit as comfortably as you can with your legs spread comfortably across. I remember there is this really tall guy that I met once before sitting across from me with his super duper long legs stretch across the small tiny round cafe table towards me. There were no physical contact at all but the vibe at the time could have lit a bondfire. Sadly (or rather fortunately), I found out that he is a player. So, no thanks.

Next is the eyes! Remember how you know a couple just start dating when you see them staring gooey eyes at each other? When you are trying to attract a girl, eye contact is very very important. General rule is 50% when you are spoken to and 90% when you are speaking. This will show sincerity and interest. Girls are not used to being looked in the eyes by someone that is interested in them. So, this will come of as both attractive and show of confident and at the same time surprise the girl. Of course, it will help if you have sea blue eyes with long eye lashes that a girl simply can't stop staring and get lost in....

Last but not least, no matter how nervous you are feeling at the time, DO NOT SHOW THEM! Trust me, the moment the girl sense that you are nervous, then it is sayonara to you! We like our man to be strong, kind, wonderful, great eyes, great butt, great smile, humorous, entertaining, sensitive, cooks, clean and the list goes on! hahaha...